Matthew 19:5-6 states that “‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
Marriage is a promise and sacred bond between a man and a woman publicly entered into before God. I could entertain you on how our wedding went but I’ll save that for another time. Luke and I have been married for 7, almost 8 months. As all newlyweds probably say, it’s been wonderful and full of love. That’s entirely true for us. We’ve experienced things most newlyweds would not have to endure but it has strengthened our marriage in numerous ways. It has taught us more about communication (one of the reasons difficulties begin in a marriage), true, deep love, and grace.
I never thought about grace in a marriage; at least not until I realized grace is about love, forgiveness, tenderness, and helpfulness. Aren’t these all of the things we ask of our spouse and that our spouse asks of us? Grace is so vital to a healthy marriage. My husband has shown me grace countless times in the last 7 months. He’s shown grace during the grief, the anxiety, the impatience, the irritability, the sadness, the neediness…the list could possibly go on if he was writing. Without his endless love, just like Jesus’, I wouldn’t be where I am in life.
Grace in a marriage is about being there for each other no matter what. It’s about holding each other and listening to our spouse talk or even cry. It’s about forgiveness, whether it’s something that was said or something not done that you expected. It’s about tenderness regardless of what life throws at both of you. It’s about being helpful even with something as simple as opening a jar of pickles or cleaning the house. It’s appreciation…with EVERYTHING. Without grace, marriage gets difficult. You move your eyes from Jesus even just slightly enough to let the devil in. We all know the devil just wants to destroy marriages no matter what he has to do.
My advice for you tonight: show grace to your spouse. They deserve it just as much as you do.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” -Colossians 3:12-14